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My wife and I have studied many books together and have gone to several marriage retreats and classes.Â
We have a great marriage.
We still need help.
Deployments are hard on everyone. Being away from your spouse for 12-15 months is a hard separation, but you can return to a stronger method if you take the opportunity to work on this as a goal. While you are separated, you can think though what you have done wrong in the past. While you are separated you can learn new techniques of communications that can help in your marriage.
Monica and I are currently working througgh the book Love Talk– a communication book. It gives us a little to talk about before I return home. Here, we can talk about our communication issues while we are separated. One thing I have learned about communication is that we do communication better when I’m downrange. Why? Because I am forced to listen. When you only talk on the phone or on the computer–there is always a talk and listen formula.  I still have to be intentional–I can’t interrupt her. But, because we are far apart it is important that I listen.
Take time to read a book together during this deployment.
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Thank you for the reading suggestion. M and I are not separated but have communication issues just the same. Your Monday suggestions are also applicable to families who are not seaparated by deployment.